Making Space for Taking Initiative In and Through Relationships ( a video)

If you want to become a Reflective Practitioner, acquire a Growth Mindset, or become a Lifelong, self-directed Learner, you have to take initiative in relationships, such as those with your teachers, advisors and peers. At the same time, it is through the relationships you develop as you pursue these goals—including your relationship with yourself—that you find support for the risk-taking and change that is involved in taking initiative in relationships. 

The schema in this youtube identifies six aspects of this process: negotiating power and standards (a “vertical” relationship); building peer (or “horizontal”) relationships; exploring differences and diversity among people); acknowledging that affect (i.e., emotion) is involved in what you are doing and not doing (and in how others respond to that); developing autonomy (so that you are neither too sensitive nor impervious to feedback); and clearing away distractions from other sources (present and past) so you can “be here now.” Do not expect to learn or change without moving among or being jostled by the interplay or tensions between these different considerations. They don’t all pull you in the same direction; or, at least, it is difficult to attend to them all simultaneously. You might focus on a few at any given time, but the challenge is to keep the other considerations in mind and address any tensions among them.

For example, to “be here now” might involve shaping relationships so that others can and want to help you by taking over responsibility of things that have been distracting you.

In summary, pay attention to the interplay between all six aspects as you make space for taking initiative in and through relationships.

(Adapted from Taylor, P. & J. Szteiter (2012) Taking Yourself Seriously: Processes of Research and Engagement)