Effective collaborators: Skills and dispositions (Respect)
August 8, 2011 3 Comments
Respect—Effective participants in a collaboration (or workshop, groups process, etc.) draw on the skill or disposition to:
- listen attentively to others as commonalities and differences are brought to light
- take an interest in points of view and work and life experiences that are distant from our own.
- suspend judgment and listen empathetically.
- have repeated exchanges that are meaningful and generative with participants who differ from us (which is enhanced by small size and mixed composition of the collaboration).
- notice the experience of being listened to.
- hear ourselves better as a result of being heard.
- bring to the surface and into play knowledge we already have about the topic of any meeting or session.
- recognize that there is insight in every response—there are no wrong answers.
- recognize that each participant, regardless of background or previous experience has something valuable to contribute to the process and outcomes—we need everyone’s insight for the wisest result.
- develop relationships that will enable us to keep getting help and support when the collaboration is over.
- find opportunities to affirm what is working well.
In all these ways, Respect is not simply stated as a ground rule, but is enacted.
[See Introduction to this series of posts.]